Most people have been involved in a stormy relationship or two, we can all relate to some degree over the feeling of being out of sync, countless miscommunications, arguments and ultimately the end. The relationship is so bad that all we want to do is get OUT. This is good, we should get out of something this toxic but once we have reached safer shores rather than to merely start over the prudent thing to do is sort out the mess you just went through and find the blessing within.
Every experience in life is a potential lesson it is when we do not stop, reflect and learn the lesson that we are bound to repeat the experience in various manifestations again and again until we get it. This is why it is so important to stop, and look back. What did this person teach you? How did you grow during the relationship? Did it cause you to get stronger, smarter, more independent? Did it help you to know how not to be? Did you notice traits from one of your parents in this person? Why we choose the people we end up with is a fascinating subject we often choose them because they can heal us in a roundabout manner. The drug addict boyfriend is reminiscent of the alcoholic father. The cheating girlfriend is not unlike the neglectful and often absent mother. If you look back you may see a pattern in your relationships, pay attention. What you need to heal is in this pattern. Stop, reflect sort it out. Work on yourself, engage in your healing journey.
Remember no matter how bad the other person was it takes two, there was something in you that attracted this person, your wounds, your need to heal. Address these, explore them, this is where you have the chance to transform. Once you do you can bring in a magnificent relationship one that will support and nurture you, with a partner that respects and loves you unconditionally. What I learned through my own life experience and through readings is it can’t happen unless you do the work on yourself first. The good news is the work doesn’t have to be complete to start seeing amazing results, you just have to be underway, make the decision to change and the universe will respond by sending in help. This is true of any healing journey, make the decision to heal, to change and transform and you will. Be diligent this is your life, make it the best it can possibly be!